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Things.

Reading: The Great Gatsby

Playing Diablo III

Writing: New mystery sci-fi/fantasy thing novel/book/story/memoir

Eating: Air

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Starting work on a new book tonight.

It’s in the planning stages. I’m not sure what genre to call it, it will have a bit of mystery, a very hint of sci-fi and a lot of emotional stuff. I’m looking forward to it.

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Different things (Originally posted as ‘Asexuality’)

fuckyeahsexeducation:

There are a lot of problems in the LGBT community, mostly having to do with the fact that it isn’t just an LGBT community. Even though it’s just the most popular name, it is a good example of how much it leaves out other people. If you look in any mainstream media you see same types of people; straight, monogamous, christian white men who adhere to a certain lifestyle. Occasionally there’s a gay man, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered, non-white, female, disabled, or atheist person thrown in to show some “diversity”. That diversity is fake. It usually adheres to a stereotype and it leaves out so many people. If you are part of the majority you don’t know what it’s like to not be able to see a portrayal of people like you in mainstream society. It’s an incredibly lonely, isolating feeling.

That’s why visibility is such an important subject to minorities. It’s especially important when in a world that seems to be run by sex that you don’t feel like a sexual person. You have no safe space outside of a few websites. Some people believe that sex is outright wrong, this is known as Antisexual.  Others feel no arousal whatsoever; this is called being an Asexual, Ace, Nonsexual, or Amoeboid. Some Asexuals can feel arousal, but never directed at a person. Others can feel arousal once they have known their partner for a very long time, this is usually called Demisexuality. A lot of Demisexuals describe it as not having the primary sexual attraction, attraction at first sight, but rather have a secondary sexual attraction, an attraction once you get to know a person. Still others may only sometimes feel sexual attraction, or not get strong sexual attraction enough to act on it, or can enjoy and desire sex, but only in certain conditions, this is known as being Grey-A.

What many people should understand, but somehow don’t, is that sexual attraction is very different from romantic attraction. Everyone knows that you can have sex and be very aroused by a person without having any romantic feelings, but for some reason the reverse can be hard to grasp. They say that unless you have sexual feelings what you’re feeling is just friendship. This can be true for some people. For me the only difference between a friend and a lover is sex, but I have outright romantic feelings for the majority of my friends. Everyone’s romantic feelings are different, just like sexual feelings. That’s why some people are able to date multiple people while others can only date one. There are Asexual people who are able to have romantic feelings for a person, they might want to live together, hold hands, be monogamous, kiss and cuddle, or even get married and have children, but they don’t want to have sex. Sex is not necessary in a relationship. A lot of people say that sex is important because it is necessary to procreate.

…it’s really not. By saying that you have to want to procreate to be in a relationship, you’re taking away not only asexual relationships, but same sex relationships, relationships with people who aren’t capable of giving birth, or relationships of people who are child free and don’t want to have children. We live in a world where people can get artificial insemination and surrogacy. You don’t have to have sex to physically have children. You also don’t need to physically have children to be a parent, in a world where we are dangerously overpopulated and there are millions of children without homes, adoption is always a good option. Procreation is no longer an important part of many people’s lives, so why is it that people think that you must have sex to be a fulfilled person?

That being said, some people still want to have deep connections with other people. People who don’t want any romantic connections are known as Aromantic. People who are romantically attracted to the opposite sex are known as heteroromantic. This isn’t just a term for Asexuals, but also for people of other sexual orientations. You can be sexually attracted to people of the same sex but still be romantically attracted to people of the opposite sex. People who are romantically attracted to the same sex are known as Homoromantic. There is also Biromantic, Polyromantic, Panromantic, all of which can be experienced by a sexual or asexual person. Some asexual people even also identify as Bi, Straight, Gay, Pan, Poly, or any other sexuality because they do have relationships with people although they may not be sexual.  They can also have any type of relationship structure; they can be Polyamorous (meaning they can love more than one person) or monoamorous (they can only love one person). Many Asexuals can have a crush, a romantic attraction. But still others experience what is known as a squish, an aromantic crush. This is where they only want a platonic relationship but it’s still different than just being a friend.

An asexual person may be sexually active with a partner. Unless they are with another asexual person (which some say they are more comfortable with), they feel pressured into being sexual, or they may be sexual to make their partner happy. Some develop sexual feelings in the relationship, but outside of that have no sexual feelings whatsoever. The thing to always remember is that, like in every relationship, you should never do anything you aren’t comfortable with.

That can be really difficult for someone who’s told over and over again that they are somehow sick. There are many reasons a person can have for not having sex. There are religious reasons, they may be afraid or even phobic, there may be a medical problem, or they could be on a type of medication that takes away their libido. That is not the same as being Asexual though. There have been many scientific tests done on Asexual people’s sexual responses and all have shown that Asexuality is a real orientation.  Really, as long as that person is happy does it really matter why they aren’t having sex? Being single is not a bad thing, it’s just seen that way in our culture right now.

Another facet of sexuality is that the libido doesn’t really have to have anything to do with other people. You can just be sexually aroused without any outside stimulus or a person in mind. Not having a sex drive is known as Nonlibidoism. People who have a low sex drive or known as Hyposexual. An Asexual with a sex drive is known as Autosexual. You might ask, “How can you have a sex drive but not be interested in sex?” The answer to that is, “Very easily.” You still have those chemicals and hormones rushing through your body and you can still experience orgasm, so why not have a libido? Just because you feel all those biological reactions doesn’t mean you’re automatically attracted to humans. Whenever people hear that some Asexuals masturbate they use that as proof that they secretly want sex.

We can all agree babies don’t want sex right? We can agree that fetuses aren’t sexual beings. Neither babies nor fetuses think about sex, however both masterbate. There have been pictures taken of fetuses in the womb touching their sexual organs (once they develop that is). All of us that have ever been around a naked baby know that they touch themselves quite often, they can even have an erection. Something that people may not know is that whenever children does that thing where they hold onto a table or something and bob up and down they are also stimulating their sexual organ. Masterbation isn’t inherently sexual. For babies and fetuses, masturbation is comforting. The world is a scary place, but the parts of the brain that are stimulated with sex organs release comfort and pleasure chemicals. Therefore, the argument that masturbation=you want sex isn’t applicable.

I guess the moral of all this is that no one can tell you how to love, or that you should love. No one can define your or your relationships. No one can pass judgments on what makes you happy, as long as you aren’t hurting anyone. Every single person is different and unique, so no one can understand what it’s like to be you. The only thing that we can ask is to find people who accept us and to continue living for the quest of happiness.

Really good explanation of stuff.